Arguments with a friend, transsexual friend?My friend is a male, who wants to be female. He constantly says that he gets "period-symptoms" around the full moon cause that's when 28 days is, and he gets really cranky and bitchy (like having PMS) but after 2 days (normally the day after the full moon) he's perfectly fine and apologizing.
He says he can understand fully about my own period problems to which I agrued that he can't fully understand or KNOW what it feels like to have the kinds of pains I or any woman has. He might have sympathy pains, but he's also been known to use certain things such as his asthma and panic attacks to gain attention. I think this is another one of them. He called me arrogant for not understand and I said "I can understand maybe having sympathy pains, but you can't know the full extent of a period, and its just like I wont know the full extent of getting kicked in the testicles. I can think "OH GOD, that must hurt" but I'll never know what it feels like"
What should I do? I don't want to back down
He's not taking any hormone replacements. All he does is wear a bra from time to time. He also doesn't think anyone understands him and I've accepted he feels like he should be a girl, but I have no sympathy for someone who uses "having pains" when they don't know what the feel like for temper/rudeness and what not.
I told him "You can call me arrogant if you wish, but that's my opinion" and he did call me/think I was arrogant, so maybe I just put myself up for the name? He also has told my husband that no he's the only "level-headed" person he can talk to after we had gotten into another agrument about him wanting to not be in the group of friends we were in and I told him to "Leave if he wanted, but don't play me around and pretend to be my friend" because he was acting so nice then was just "Yeah..whatever" Which currently makes me want to give him the boot now.
-Aaron B
get a new friend
-tambos67camaro
He wants attention. You are in over your head. He is being a bully when he calls you names. If he is a transsexual he needs professional help. No matter what your opinion is of his sexuality, he need therapy to deal with the issues that come with it.
-Thinkaboutit
If your friend is taking hormone replacement, especially the cyclic ones, then he may know what PMS symptoms feel like (except the cramping). If he is not, then you are correct.
-Fee4Lyfe
Well, first I will say that the power of the mind is amazing. You are what you believe...so if he believes that he is having PMS, then there is such a thing in the mental health world called somatic symptoms. He probably is. Now I don't believe he can feel the cramps and pain to the extent of a woman on her menses...but somatic symptoms are real...although they begin in the mind, they manifest in the body. If he is your true friend, the best thing you can do is offer your support...and suggest that he see a counselor. There are lots of qualified counselors who deal with sexual identity issues out there. Also, a great movie to watch which is a true story and explores such sexual identity issues is called Boys Don't Cry....grab some popcorn and watch it with your friend. Come back to answers and let me know what you think.
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