Do you know anyone severely overweight?I have a friend who is very much overweight. No matter how much I have tried to encourage her...or how much I have talked with her about eating healthier foods, it doesn't do any good. She's about in her early 20's...and is somewhere around 300+ pounds. She uses the same excuse that she "doesn't like" healthier foods and such. But basically whines all of the time about how she "can't breathe" and has trouble with this and that. Likely because she is incredibly overweight and is killing her own self by ignoring it and ignoring what others tell her. I know that the body can't take all of that weight on it and slowly gives out over time. She has expressed in the past that she is scared that she might be diabetic - won't go get tested for it because she "doesn't have the money." I didn't have the money to pay for my medical tests before, either...but I found a way.
I'm getting a little frustrated with this. She has talked about a possible "stomach staple/clamp" procedure of some type.
It just honestly seems like she is trying every single way to lose weight "effortlessly" - thinking of everything but the right way of exercise and proper diet.
I'm sure some people are going to try to say that "it's genetic" to be 300+ pounds in your early 20's - but do not believe that whatsoever. I have yet to meet a person who could not exercise and eat right, who still gained weight after doing so. It seems to be the "I've tried, but nothing worked" whiney approaches all of the time. I've seen people on t.v. like this...and all kinds of places. This friend that I have known for a while...seems to be this same way. I love them as a friend - but I very much dislike the "can't do" attitude and especially the "won't do and won't even try" attitude when it comes to exercising and trying to eat right.
And pardon those grammatical mistakes/words missed above. That was supposed to say "...but I do not believe that whatsoever." It won't let me go back and change it.
This friend...talks about being "fat" all of the time - and clearly knows it herself. But I don't know...she just won't try to get exercise for anything. What else can you do when someone wants to bathe in their self-pity and play helpless when you've tried to encourage them and informed them of what is healthier to eat and what kind of things they could do to get exercise? :-\
CNW - Yes, I have plenty of my own problems to worry about. But that's what friends do - try to be supportive of each other. Apparently you have never heard of this? However, even a coach presses people hard sometimes...because they know that it's the only way to get through to some people. However, I do not seem to be getting through to this person at all. It is hard to choose between being a "friend and supportive" and telling what she needs to hear and is apparently running away from.
"Blah Blah Blah" user - Lapband surgery and gastric bypass is NOT a guarantee for life to lose weight and keep it off. The person still has to work at it. They still have to exercise, and it ultimately comes down to a combination of exercise and diet. I do not see how "surgery" of any type will cure this problem other than on a very temporary basis.
She talks about her own self as being "fat"...talks about having trouble breathing. People seem to think I am the "enemy" in the situation for whatever reason...but I am addressing this as a friend. It is not MY fault if they do not listen...however, some of you seem to be finger pointers.
When she talks about how she is "going to die if she doesn't lose weight" and it seems like she is doing about nil about it...that is very frustrating to someone who is trying to encourage her. She clearly acknowledges already that she needs to lose the weight - and as one of the people below stated - she has already been through her "Oh crap, I need to lose this weight" moments. Every day seems to be that - but she doesn't seem to get serious enough to do anything about it. Still eating foods that are terrible for her because she "doesn't like" healthy foods. Gastric bypass surgery and lapband...will only help if she's not cramming her face with fattening foods all of the time.
-Batmans Babe
She should get gastric bypass (sp?)
It's expensive but worth it.
She needs help and FAST or she will die.
-CNW
It doesnt seem to be any of your buisness whatsoever. If you dont want her whining about being fat, tell her to stop, it sounds like your getting to involved into her buisness.
Whats wrong with her getting a stomach clamp? it is legitamately difficult to lose weight, and I doubt you've ever had to.
Edit: Theres a differnece between being supportive and being nosey. if she hasnt asked you for help with her weight problem, butt out.
-Blah Blah Blah
Do you have any of your own problems to worry about?
She is probably very unhappy with herself and doesn't know where to start... or she is holding out hope for the gastric lapband or gastric bypass.
Tell her you'll be supportive of her efforts in losing weight, but you are not her emotional punching bag to throw her insecurities on if she is not willing to do something about it.
-dali333
i would be willing to bet that she has a food addiction.
first of all, she has to want to get better, because only she can make the life changes,and they are hard...fighting ANY addiction is very hard. but there many supports available such as Overeaters Anoynmous, and other local, and online support groups as well.
trust me, she dosent like how she feels or looks. she faces a very daunting situation, and she needs strength to address it.
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