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Is it Non-Christian to see a counselor?My childhood was good for the most part. However, there were sparse events throughout my childhood that make me feel traumatized a little.
For instance, we were raised as Christians. Whenever we did something that Mom didn't like, we were told that we were going to Hell. At the time, I thought that this was normal. However, I have recently realized that we were going to Hell for the things that the Lord doesn't like, not Mom. I feel that there was a misuse of authority.
Mom often jumped to conclusions and spanked me for no reason or for silly reasons. For instance, I was threatened with her fist for trying to help another student with her schoolwork simply because Mom said not to do it. There was no reason for it, just simply to control.
After spankings, I would have panic attacks and asthma attacks, but I would be told to be quiet. When I could not stop gasping for air ("making noise"), Mom would then say that I was going to get another spanking. She would says things like "you hypocrite, crying and carrying on, you will go to Hell". Once, I was about to pass out during a panic attack and the last thing that she said before I lost consciousness was "Well, it looks like you're going on to Hell". After a few minutes, I awakened with her just sitting down glaring at me as if it was my fault that I passed out. She didn't even call for help or anything!
She has screamed at me very loudly, called me the "Devil", "possessed", etc. for minor mistakes. If I ever disagree with her on anything, she says "well, you were smart when you were younger but I guess you're not now..." These kinds of incidents have happened several times. However, I cannot talk about them with her to find out her reasons for behaving this way because she denies them all. If I try to talk to her, she will turn her back on me and scream to the Lord to take me ("the Devil") away because I am "lying and accusing" her. She acts as if I am losing my mind and she pretends to have no recollection of these events. She sometimes says things like "there are people who really beat their kids, so compared to that, you were treated well."
I can't talk to her about anything because as soon as we don't agree, she turns her back to talk to the Lord about me instead of finishing the conversation with me.
Now, I second-guess myself with every decision. I try to think about if it is something that she would like. I am trying to pick colleges and every time that I find one that I like, I find myself wondering what Mom would say. At night, her screaming and accusations replay in my mind over and over again. I even find myself wondering about how to pray because I was often scolded if I made a mistake during a family prayer.
Should I see a counselor? What should I do?
(I am still living with mother and she says that Christians shouldn't see counselors... moving out would only make her more upset).
-Karl P
Please seek a great Christian Counselor!!
-Fronky
There is nothing wrong with seeking help and there is nothing wrong with moving out of an abusive home.
-miss answer kitteh
Get away from your mother. She is evil and abusive. Yes, you need to see a counselor. Google npd and controlling people.
-can't come up with anything
your mom's one of those really close-minded people who call themselves christian and giving actual christians a bad rep. yes see a counselor.
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