sick child, resistant mother?I have a 5 year old son that has "allergies". His mother and I are seperated and working on a divorce. He has been sick with congestion, runny nose and cough for about 5 months now. I took him to Drs. and they treated the cough but it never went away. Finally I took him to an Ear/Nose/Throat speciallist and he said his tonsils were "a 3 out of 4" and probably needed to come out. He said try zyrtec and Nasonex for a couple of weeks to see if the symptoms get better and if not schedule to have tonsils, and adnoids removed probably just remove the fluid instead of tubes in the ears. A few nights ago my son had what looked like an asthma attack he had a hard time breathing. as I was preparing to take him to ER because he doesnt have astma the symptoms went away. the next AM I called his MD and he examined him and agreed with the ENT DR. My astranged wife doesnt want to have the surgery but instead whats a 3rd dr. to look at him in August. Is she OK? Does that seem rational?
-Ruth C
yes, it seems rational to me. Always get a second and third opinion. Can't blame the mom for not wanting her child to undergo surgery if it can be avoided. Any surgery has some risk associated with it, infection or hemmorhage.
However, there's a point where procrastination is not rational, but I don't think you've reached this point yet.
-Alexia
You just described my life with your sons symptoms unfortunately. It's hard to deal with these issues for the child and also as a parent, especially if the parent hasn't suffered from the symptoms themself. You are correct in taking drastic steps to help your son now since these problems can get worse with age. Although doctors usually don't advise surgery for a child his age...his case must be pretty extreme. If your ex-wife feels strongly about him not having the surgery, consider getting a second opinion from another doctor and present her with it.
As for the zyrtec and Nasonex...those are 2 of the best on the market in my opinion. The problem with the issues your son has is that it's a chain-reaction process...the allergies bring on the sinus probs and the sinus probs bring on the ear clogging and the asthma is ever present especially at night. I'm sure you doctor has probably prescribed him with an inhaler too for asthma attacks? If not, this would be advisable. But, stay strong in your pursuit with your son. Many people think that since these symptoms are so common to many that it's not a big deal but it is.
My parents didn't pursue my problems as a child and I suffered immensely. It effected my daily life and I constantly had migraines. I wasn't as social as I would have been and had trouble in school due to feeling terrible. Now...finally after all these years it's being seriously addressed. I had my tonsils out last year, part of the soft-palet of my throat removed and sleep-apnea surgery due to the swelling of my throat. Too little done for me too late so I say keep on the path you're on now so he doesn't deal with so much later.
Good luck to you...you sound like a great father and try not to get too frustrated with your ex. She's most likely scared and not educated on the issues that your son is dealing with.
-T E
Yes, it's okay to get a 3rd opinion. It's always scary to think of your child going under the knife. Also, maybe she needs to have the procedure described to her by the doctor. She might be thinking it's still done the way it use to be. Now it's an out patient procedure compared to years ago when a patient had to stay a couple of nights. Or she may be trying to piss you off by being controlling. Good Luck.
-jurdonna
Get a Dr. whom you trust. I think that would be mean to make your child suffer until August. I don't know what she's thinking. I'll bet if SHE was the one suffering she'd not want to drag it out. You sound like a wonderful father.........keep it up and good luck!
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